Real vs. Real Fake
Okay, so I read an article in Women’s heath and thought I’d share.
According to research done by Univ. of Kansas, 67% of women fake orgasms…Really? Come on girls. The problem with this is that the man who administers this Out of this world, “When Harry met Sally” moment that can be heard for 3 square blocks; he thinks that he’s THE MAN. He has the gift to bring you the “O” and ultimate pleasure.
And what is he going to do…(besides share the event with his buddies) he’s going to do the same exact thing again and again! Argh… “It worked before?”
So then you have a harder time explaining why you’re not all hot and bothered again.
Now if I, Dr. DemonLover if you will, may make a suggestion; Communicate!
Tell your lover what you like, how you like it and where you like it. Yes this goes for m/m, f/f, f/m, m/f/m….LOL, or what ever group you belong to.
If you are close enough to be NAKED and doing the DEED, then you better damn well be able to talk to your intamate other.
Now, if you fall into the catorgory of: “I don’t know what I want?” or “I’ve never had an “O”!…(WTF??) then sister (or brother), it’s time to make a date,
WITH YOURSELF!
A little alone time is what you need, a trip to the “Lotions & Lace” store, sexy lingerie, music, wine…any of these things can help set the mood.
Have a night alone and focus everything about you. YES I’m serious…If YOU know what you like and WANT, then you can communicate that to your partner.
It will save time, frustration and disappointment.
Even for us married gals, a trip to the “toy store” might just add that extra spice to a currently bland Sex Soup.
Think your partner will mind? When in the history of man kind did a man/woman refuse this line…
“Honey, I bought some new toys and lube, Wanna try them out?”
Case in point, if your sex life is perfect…write a “how to” book.
If you are a normal hot-blooded male or female, make everrything you can out of what you’ve got! “Kick it up a notch” as Emeril would say…. Just don’t yell “BAM!” during…LOL
And please don’t fake it…
The big “O” will make you happy, your partner happy for giving you so must pleasure and make the world a better place all together!
Be safe!
DL
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hahahaha… tmi for a moment. used to (didn’t wanna make him feel bad!!) then thought why?! stopped that nonsense. Now, when we actually get down & dirty.. MUCH more fun 😀
And your right… HOW IN MONKEY’S NUTS is it possible for someone to never experience it?!?! That’s just crAzy talk! If it’s true for peeps… ummm see a doctor… (of course, that’s after they try your prescribed method first Dr DL ;)-)
For some women I think “faking it” is just a way to get it over with. A woman is busy all day with work/kids/chores, and when that’s done her man wants attention too. She’s probably too tired to do anything but fake it! Not the best idea, but it happens.
Kudos on this blog topic! Better than a book review!
Oh hell to the no. I am a woman that works a full time job, kids and I get cranky as hello kitty. When my man wants some love, I “encourage” him to get me to the big “o” – nothing makes my better. Come on endorphins! Get it over with? Seriously? Naw – if he wants his he will get me mine. TMI?
*make my day better* that was supposed to say.
Exactly Lily,
weather busy or not we need that alone time with our mate or ourselves. Sex makes you feel good when done right.
If you’re not feeling great after sex, YOU”RE DOING IT WRONG! or
are with the wrong person maybe??
DL
This was awesome! I was going to post a review of “A Certain Wolfish Charm,” but yours was more interesting!
I like the comment about sex becoming a chore. Okay, brush my teeth, wash my face, sex, sleep. My sister and her hubby schedule it so that it actually happens! lol